The Connection Workbook · Individual Edition
Understand your patterns.
Choose your next step.
A self directed workbook you can complete entirely on your own. Use your GAP and personality results to recognize what you want, explore your reactions and practice actions within your control.
US$39 · Individual Edition
No partner assessment or participation is required. Suitable for reflecting within a current relationship, clarifying what you want from a future partner, or learning after an ending.
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What you will work through
- Your own GAP experience and desired frequency, or future partner preferences.
- Thinking, Feeling, Planning and Acting, including the approaches you currently use or value least.
- 16 relationship stories and individual exercises, with a GAP worksheet in every lesson.
- Clear requests, personal boundaries and realistic commitments.
- A seven day experiment and a 30 day review of selected behaviors.
The individual book helps you decide what you can change, what you might request and what remains outside your control. It does not depend on another person’s willingness to take part.
One sample exercise from the paid workbook
The thought you treated as a fact
A familiar moment: You send a message and receive a brief reply. You decide the other person must be annoyed. Before the day ends, you are responding to that explanation rather than the words they actually sent.
The insight: An interpretation can arrive so quickly that it feels like an observation. Noticing the distinction gives you a choice about your next response.
- Write the words or behavior you actually observed.
- Write the explanation you gave it, then two other possibilities that could fit.
- Choose one useful next step, a question you might ask, a pause, or a boundary you need regardless of their motive.
Reflect: What do I know, what am I assuming, and what choice belongs to me?
This is one sample. The full workbook contains the complete lessons, worksheets and practice sequence.
Begin with your free personal results
Your GAP assessment, personality assessment and personal report are free. The workbook is an optional purchase, US$39. The optional US$19 partner package is a separate step if you later want to involve your partner.
Start my free personal pathway →
Your workbook contains guided lessons and exercises. Your personal scores are supplied in a separate free results report. Keep the report beside your workbook, or email yourself a copy from My results. Scores are not automatically printed inside the workbook PDF.